Skip to content

Blog

Weathering the Wilderness

Below is a sermon I wrote in the weeks following my grandfather’s death in March. I hope it’s an encouragement to you as you find yourself “weathering the wilderness” in your own life.


The Lord brought the general message for this sermon to me in the early part of February. It was the idea of taking a journey with the Lord through the wilderness. I remember turning on voice-to-text and jotting down notes on my phone to get the gist down.

I tried to begin preparing. I started digging through Scripture, looking at passages, reading commentaries, and praying. But something was missing. something wasn’t sticking. I felt like a piece was missing. Initially, I thought it was the fact that I was working so much. Pulling 55-60-hour weeks didn’t leave me feeling like doing much except sleeping. Because of that, I felt like I was a bit removed from the Lord. I’d get up at 5, try to read my Bible, eat breakfast, and be out the door by 6. I was hitting a brick wall.

I decided to go to the beach on the morning of February 25th. I wanted to get out there before anyone else and watch the sunrise. I thought maybe that would help clear my head. It did. I decided that being in Charleston was the wilderness I was going through. City life, city people, and city culture were so new to me. It was so different. THAT was the wilderness that I was going to focus on as I preached that message.

So I started again. Voice notes. Writing. I even started tying in some funny anecdotes to help the various points stick. However, the hole in the sermon remained. I kept praying about it. Lord show me what I’m missing from this. I had 10 pages of notes but it was disjointed. I had a bunch of good thoughts but no glue to hold it together.

Then March 15, 2023, happened.

I was in the middle of a code review meeting at work when I got a text about taking an urgent call. I stepped out of the meeting, took the call, and there it was. My whole world was flipped. My papa had died in a car accident, right at the intersection that I had crossed hundreds, if not thousands, of times over the years. It didn’t seem real.

I’m convinced that there are few things worse in life than having to grieve alone. Having to be down in Charleston while my whole family was in the throes of a tragedy was torture. I didn’t know how long the grief process would take.

Since that Wednesday, life has been a whirlwind. I’ve made so many core memories, things that I will never forget, yet things I don’t want to remember.

I’ve gotten to the point now where I can be fine one minute then an anvil drops on my shoulder when I hear a sound, or smell and smell, or see something that jogs a memory. And the whole time I’ve had a single question running through my mind.

And it’s not why

Everybody always asks “why” in these sorts of things. I had the answer to that question minutes after I got the initial news. Because the Lord’s timing is better than my timing. The Lord’s way is better than my way. The Lord has his Will for each of our lives. That’s why Papa went out the way he did.

What I can’t seem to understand is HOW.

How was I supposed to stand before a congregation and preach a sermon on going through a wilderness when I am in the most deserted wilderness I’ve ever been in? How am I supposed to preach about holding to God when I feel so far removed? Living away from family, losing family, searching for a church, searching for a community, continuing to learn how to adult, continuing to learn about my job. So much at one time. But God is faithful, and I’m here to testify to that faithfulness. And what better way to do that than to remind ourselves of the truth in Deuteronomy 8? So let’s turn there this morning and begin.

First, we need to get some background. In Deuteronomy 8, Moses is speaking to the people on the banks of the Jordan. It is at the end of the 40 years of wilderness. The disobedient previous generation has died out and it is now time for the new generation to enter in. But first, it was important that the law be repeated in their ears a second time. That’s where the name Deuteronomy comes from. “Deuteros” means second, and “nomos” means law. One of the key themes of Deuteronomy is Remembrance, specifically in chapter 8, where we will be looking today. Moses is exhorting the people to remember the riches of the Lord and the dangers of forgetfulness and idolatry. And in doing so he is reminding them of the importance of the wilderness that they just went through. It is here that I want to spend a few minutes with you this morning, as we examine God’s truths in a sermon entitled “Weathering the Wilderness”.


Before we can understand this wilderness that Moses speaks of we have to understand how the people got into the wilderness. We can quickly go back to Numbers 14 to see that.

21 But as truly as I live, all the earth shall be filled with the glory of the Lord.

22 Because all those men which have seen my glory, and my miracles, which I did in Egypt and in the wilderness, and have tempted me now these ten times, and have not hearkened to my voice;

23 Surely they shall not see the land which I sware unto their fathers, neither shall any of them that provoked me see it:

24 But my servant Caleb, because he had another spirit with him, and hath followed me fully, him will I bring into the land whereinto he went; and his seed shall possess it.

25 (Now the Amalekites and the Canaanites dwelt in the valley.) Tomorrow turn you, and get you into the wilderness by the way of the Red sea.

26 And the Lord spake unto Moses and unto Aaron, saying,

27 How long shall I bear with this evil congregation, which murmur against me? I have heard the murmurings of the children of Israel, which they murmur against me.

28 Say unto them, As truly as I live, saith the Lord, as ye have spoken in mine ears, so will I do to you:

29 Your carcases shall fall in this wilderness; and all that were numbered of you, according to your whole number, from twenty years old and upward which have murmured against me.

Num 14: 21-29

I want to note two distinct ways in which we end up in places of wilderness, obedience and disobedience.

Disobedience

There are 3 distinct actions of disobedience that you can take to end up in a wilderness apart from God. You can reject, run, or live in a state of ruin.

Living in a state of Rejection of the Lord.

The Israelites rejected the Lord. They didn’t follow his command to take control of the Promised Land. Their fear of its inhabitants and their lack of faith in the Lord compounded together to create a weak and reprobate nation that wanted to go back into captivity rather than the Promised Land. Thus, those above the age of 20 (Num 14:29) were sentenced to die in the wilderness

Trying to run from the Lord.

Jonah ran from the Lord. ended up in the midst of a raging see, then in the belly of a fish, because he ran from the call of the Lord. He ran away from the blessing of the Lord, tried to separate himself from God’s calling, and found himself sitting in the pitch-black dark, surrounded by putrid filth.

Living in a state of ruin away from the Lord

Check out Luke 8:29

29 (For he had commanded the unclean spirit to come out of the man. For oftentimes it had caught him: and he was kept bound with chains and in fetters; and he brake the bands, and was driven of the devil into the wilderness.)

Luke 8:29

The demon-possessed man was driven into the wilderness by the demon that possessed him. The word “devil” there references the demons that inhabited that man, not Satan himself. Some people have been so wrapped up in the chains of the devils and demons in their lives, that they are commanded into the wilderness by them.

Notice that the Israelites and Jonah had a previous relationship with the Lord. This man had not. All he had was his demons. And they drove him away from people, into the wilderness among the tombstones and dead men’s bones, where he would cut himself and wail and scream. Some of your demons will put you in a nice car, they will stroke your ego, they will give you a nice house, they will give you a great retirement, but when you get alone by yourself and really think about it, you have nothing. You are living in a state of ruin apart from God.

Obedience

You say, “Sam, obedience and disobedience are two sides of the same coin.” Yep, they are.

You mean to tell me I’m going to end up in the wilderness at some point in my life regardless of what I do, regardless of whether I’m obedient or obedient?” Yes, you will.

But the outcome when you’re obedient is much different than when you aren’t. When you are living in a state of Faithfulness, Fruitfulness, and Fellowship, you will find that the weathering the wilderness doesn’t feel as lonely.

Living in a state of Faithfulness

Elijah served the Lord faithfully, slaying 450 prophets of Baal. Jezebel swore to take his life, and he went into the wilderness. Don’t believe me? Here it is…

4 But he himself went a day’s journey into the wilderness, and came and sat down under a juniper tree: and he requested for himself that he might die; and said, It is enough; now, O Lord, take away my life; for I am not better than my fathers.

1 Kings 19:4

Living in a state of Fruitfulness

David was in the wilderness in caves hiding from Saul after he reaped good fruit from following the Lord’s command.

14 And David abode in the wilderness in strong holds, and remained in a mountain in the wilderness of Ziph. And Saul sought him every day, but God delivered him not into his hand.

15 And David saw that Saul was come out to seek his life: and David was in the wilderness of Ziph in a wood.

1 Samuel 23:14-15

The Lord tells David to go fight the Philistines who are robbing the threshing floors at Keilah (1 Samuel 23:2). David saves Keilah, then has to flee to the wilderness because Saul tries to trap him in the place God told him to go.

The devil doesn’t quit when you’re where God wants you to be. Matter of fact, Satan gives you more trouble when you’re where you are supposed to be than when you’re not. If you’re not where you’re supposed to be, you’re being disobedient, so you voluntarily put yourself in a wilderness apart from God. However, when you’re being fruitful, the devil may try to make you feel trapped in the place God wants you to be, in order to put you in a state of discouragement. This is not an uncommon phenomenon.

There are many pastors standing in pulpits today who have written, unsigned resignation letters sitting in the drawers of their desks in their offices. They’ve gotten so discouraged they’ve almost thrown in the towel, even though they’re being fruitful in the work God has called them to do. There are Christians whom God sends to pagan places to make an impact, but the devil tries to immobilize those Christians, making them feel trapped in their surroundings, so they’re less effective for the cause of Christ. I know it firsthand.

Living in a state of Fellowship

Can you go into the wilderness even when you’re in a state of fellowship with God? YES. Look here are Mark 1:10-13.

10 And straightway coming up out of the water, he saw the heavens opened, and the Spirit like a dove descending upon him:

11 And there came a voice from heaven, saying, Thou art my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased.

12 And immediately the spirit driveth him into the wilderness.

13 And he was there in the wilderness forty days, tempted of Satan; and was with the wild beasts; and the angels ministered unto him.

Mark 1:10-13

Jesus was in a state of fellowship with the Spirit, and it drove him into the wilderness. Now let’s back up a minute and look at the difference between Mark 1 and Luke 8. In those passages, we see two men who have both been driven into the wilderness. Let’s quickly break down the two verses in question.

For he had commanded the unclean spirit to come out of the man. For oftentimes it had caught him: and he was kept bound with chains and in fetters; and he brake the bands, and was driven of the devil into the wilderness.

Luke 8:29

And immediately the spirit driveth him into the wilderness.

Mark 1:12

In Luke 8:29, the word driven is “elauno” (pronounced el-ow’-no). It’s the idea of toiling and rowing in a violent windy storm. It’s used 5 times in the Bible, and always in a negative connotation. The word wilderness is “eremos” (pronounced er’-ay-mos ). It means a desolate, solitary desert place.

In Mark 1:12, the word driveth is “ekballo” (pronounced ek-bal’-lo). It’s the idea of bringing forth. Jesus was BROUGHT to that place by the Spirit. The word wilderness is “eremos” (pronounced er’-ay-mos ). It means a desolate, solitary desert place.

Get this. Don’t miss it.

The place is the same, but the way in which the subject was brought to the place is different. The demon-possessed man was tossed to and fro. He may have tried to pull against the current of his flesh, but because he didn’t have Christ, he was swept into a wilderness outside of his own volition. He was far away from the Lord in the wilderness. Jesus was brought there by the Holy Spirit because God had something he wanted to show Jesus. His walk with the Lord was strengthened in the wilderness.

If you’re in a desolate desert place today in your own life, I can almost assuredly say that you’re there for one of these 6 reasons. Living in a state of rejection, ruin, or running. Or living in a state of faithfulness, fruitfulness, or fellowship. Now that we’ve figured out how we get there, we need to figure out what we do while we are there. Let’s start examining Deuteronomy 8 for that.

1 All the commandments which I command thee this day shall ye observe to do, that ye may live, and multiply, and go in and possess the land which the Lord sware unto your fathers.

2 And thou shalt remember all the way which the Lord thy God led thee these forty years in the wilderness, to humble thee, and to prove thee, to know what was in thine heart, whether thou wouldest keep his commandments, or no.

3 And he humbled thee, and suffered thee to hunger, and fed thee with manna, which thou knewest not, neither did thy fathers know; that he might make thee know that man doth not live by bread only, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of the Lord doth man live.

Deuteronomy 8:1-3

In verse 2, the word humble is “anah” (pronounced aw-naw’). It means to chasten. We get the word chasten from the Latin word chastus, which means to discipline in order to make morally pure. God sometimes puts us in the wilderness because he wants to put us back into a position of moral pureness. If you keep a compass around a magnet too long, the compass will become skewed and point towards the magnet instead of pointing to the true north. God wants our moral compass to point toward Him, not the things of this world, so there are times when He will remove us from those things.

The word prove is “nacah” (pronounced naw-saw’). It means to test. God gives us the free will to choose who we will follow. He will not force us to follow Him. Sometimes, we are put into the wilderness as a test of whether we will choose to rely on Him or rely on ourselves.

The word know is “yada`” (pronounced yaw-dah’). It means to discern and to discover. God already knows what is in your heart because he is omniscient. However, YOU discover what is in your heart when you go into the wilderness. It’s easy to say what you would do when everything is going well in your life. But when you are in a desolate, solitary, desert place, that is where the rubber meets the road.

Earlier this year, maybe a month or two after I had moved to Charleston, I had the opportunity to go out one Friday night with some work buddies. We had a new member joining the team, and all of us decided to go to Shem Creek and eat supper together as a sort of welcoming event. Shem Creek in Charleston, SC is a known party spot, especially for Friday nights_.

Shortly after we got to the restaurant, the drinks began flowing, and some of my coworkers became drunk. As the night progressed, I became uncomfortable. I noticed a mother and her young child at the table behind us glancing at us as one of my coworkers told a bawdy, explicit story in his drunken state. I felt ashamed. Still, I stayed.

After the dinner was over, all of us went outside on the deck overlooking the water. “What are we going to do now?”, one of them asked. “There’s a good spot down the street, let’s go there”, one of them replied. And off everyone began walking. I followed. With every step I took, the weight on my shoulders got heavier. I’d never been bar hopping, but I knew what happened on these kinds of adventures. Yet, I wanted so badly to be a part of the team.

I was far away from everyone I knew. None of my friends and family back home would know if I went out that night. I could dance, drink, pretend to be someone else, and get away with it. Still, the conviction grew stronger. I started walking slower and slower as we progressed down the strip. Finally, I stopped and called after the group that I was going home. I said my goodbyes, went and got my car from the parking garage, and drove back to my apartment, where I promptly hit a gym session to get rid of the pent-up frustration.

I discovered that night what was in my heart. The desire to be well-liked and to find some sort of community in my wilderness put me on the edge of doing something irresponsible and dangerous, but, by God’s grace, I didn’t fall.

Let’s look back at Deuteronomy 8:3. There are a lot of Christians who have the head knowledge without the heart knowledge. Basically, in that verse, God told His people, “I’m gonna put you in a place where you learn to rely on the words that come from my mouth, rather than simply the bread that I give you.” There is a physical aspect to man’s life and a spiritual aspect. One cannot exist without the other, and both have equal importance. Both must be satisfied in some capacity. In the past, many of these people had been fed physically, but they were starving spiritually, and they filled up on the junk food of idolatry rather than the meat of God’s word. God was teaching them the need for His Word.

Let’s look at another account of when Jesus was driven into the wilderness by the Spirit in Matthew 4. What does he say?

1 Then was Jesus led up of the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted of the devil.

2 And when he had fasted forty days and forty nights, he was afterward an hungred.

3 And when the tempter came to him, he said, If thou be the Son of God, command that these stones be made bread.

4 But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.

Matthew 4:1-4

Do you see how the Bible connects?! Jesus was referencing Deuteronomy 8:3!!! Man does not live by bread alone when he is in the wilderness. Those of you who are looking for the physical things of this world to satisfy your loneliness and your desolation in your wilderness will NEVER find it. God alone is your answer. God alone is your portion. God alone is your provider. We can see this in Deuteronomy 8:4.

4 Thy raiment waxed not old upon thee, neither did thy foot swell, these forty years

Deuteronomy 8:4

God provided for the physical needs of the Israelites as they were in the wilderness. He met both their health needs (their feet didn’t swell) and their material needs (their clothes didn’t get old). These needs were met miraculously.

When I was a teenager, I’d play football with some of my buddies. I was never one for the whole tackling thing though (I had some pretty beefy friends, and I was a bit more slender 😁). As such, I always advocated for two-hand touch. As it normally went, though, we’d compromise on wrap, that way those who didn’t want to get tackled wouldn’t have to be, and those who wanted to physically assert their strength could still get a chance. One summer afternoon, we decided to play, and I just happened to be wearing a hot pink muscle tee. It was one my grandma had got me from Walmart during one of the summers I had helped on the farm. It was my lucky tee. As luck would have it, I found myself catching the ball and lighting off down the field at Mach-5 wearing this tee.

One of my buddies wasn’t quite as fast as me, but he had arms like a dern orangutan, so he reached out to wrap me, and just missed me, grabbing my billowy muscle tee instead. Can I tell ya’ll I was running so fast the front stayed on and the back was gone! My sister eventually sowed the two ripped pieces back together, and all was right in the world, but that story brings up an important point I don’t want you to miss.

APART FROM GOD, EVERYTHING PHYSICAL FADES AND WEARS AWAY. It’s just like that muscle tee getting ripped in half. Why do we spend so much time focusing on trying to get more stuff? For example, the Lord has blessed me with a good job. I make good money. It has come to my attention in the past week that ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD isn’t worth a minute of time spent making a memory with someone you love. It’s not worth a minute spent deepening a relationship with a brother or sister, a parent or a friend. It’s not worth a minute spent in communion with the Lord. That is where true value lies. He’ll provide for our physical needs, so we should spend our time focusing more on spiritual needs in our lives and the lives of those around us.

25 I have been young, and now am old; yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken, nor his seed begging bread.

Psalm 37:25

God will provide. We need to spend less time focusing on the temporal and more on the eternal. Anyway… continuing on…

5 Thou shalt also consider in thine heart, that, as a man chasteneth his son, so the Lord thy God chasteneth thee.

Deuteronomy 8:5

Chasten comes from the Greek Word “yacar” (pronounced yaw-sar’). It means to instruct and current through punishment. A good father’s chastisement comes from a place of love.

11 My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord; neither be weary of his correction:

12 For whom the Lord loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth.

Proverbs 3:11-12

The Lord tells us in Deuteronomy 8:5 to consider this in our hearts. “Consider” is the same word as “know” in verse 2, yawdah. The Lord says, KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT I AM DOING THIS OUT OF LOVE. Our emotions are what often get us into trouble. I can walk myself through a situation rationally with my brain, but, as Steve Perry so eloquently put it back in 1984, I have a foolish heart. It wants what it wants.

Training and restraining those heartfelt emotions takes a lifetime of practice and God’s grace because we will mess up. But when we feel these emotions (which aren’t wrong to feel, they are simply wrong to act on), we take them back to the source of truth, God’s Word. We see Deuteronomy 8:5 and Proverbs 3:11-12, that we can KNOW that the Lord loveth who He correcteth.

6 Therefore thou shalt keep the commandments of the Lord thy God, to walk in his ways, and to fear him.

7 For the Lord thy God bringeth thee into a good land, a land of brooks of water, of fountains and depths that spring out of valleys and hills;

8 A land of wheat, and barley, and vines, and fig trees, and pomegranates; a land of oil olive, and honey;

9 A land wherein thou shalt eat bread without scarceness, thou shalt not lack any thing in it; a land whose stones are iron, and out of whose hills thou mayest dig brass.

Deuteronomy 8:6-9

When I sat under the preaching of Dr. Lee at Midway Bible Baptist in Brevard, NC, he’d always say, “when you see the word therefore, you need to see what it is THERE FOR”. It points back to verse 5. Because the Lord corrects us out of love, we should keep His commandments, reverence Him, and walk in His ways. Don’t look at your wilderness as a punishment. You need to reframe it in your mind. The wilderness is God’s way of drawing you closer to Himself.

In verse 7 it says The Lord God bringeth them into a good land. He hasn’t brought them at this point. THE ISRAELITES AREN’T THERE AT THIS MOMENT IN TIME. They are still on the banks of the Jordan. They are still wearing those clothes that haven’t waxed old. Those shoes that haven’t worn out. They see the promise ahead, but they haven’t yet claimed it. They are still in a position of total faith. A lot of us are there right now in different capacities in our lives.

When all that tragedy struck my family, I had a conversation with my Grandaddy. I asked him, “what did the father of the sick child in Mark 9:24 mean when he cried, ‘I believe, Lord help my unbelief’”. I’d read the verse many times, but I’d never really thought about it like I did in the weeks following Papa’s death. Can you partly believe something? I’d always thought of belief as a binary choice. I either believe something or I don’t. And I wanted to say I believed God had a reason for taking my Papa, but I just didn’t understand why He did it through tragedy. The man served in the Navy and he’d had a quadruple bypass surgery last year. He’d gone through so many situations more dangerous than getting behind the wheel of a car. He’d touched so many people for the better. Still, even after all that, he got served his send-off papers by some man I’ll never know who ran into the back of his car at a stoplight.

I remember when I got the news I couldn’t stop thinking about the date. 3-15-23. There’s nothing unique about those numbers. They don’t add up to each other. Nothing notable has ever happened on March 15. It was just another day. But now I won’t be able to forget it.

As I told Grandaddy all of this, he just listened quietly. Once I ran myself out of things to say, Grandaddy held up his hands, right and left. He looked at his right and he said, “this is belief apart from understanding. You know God knows what is best, so you can hold to that no matter what you feel”. He then waved his left and said, “these are where the questions are. This is where the doubts are, this is where the fear is. This is where the stuff is that would want to take your belief. These are the reasons for unbelief. And it’s a spectrum. Sometimes those fears and doubts encroach upon your belief (he pulled his left hand closer to his right), but it doesn’t mean that your belief isn’t there.”

I recall that conversation often. It reminds me that there are promises that I’ve heard from the Lord, but I haven’t seen them come to pass yet. Just because I haven’t seen it doesn’t make it any less true. And just because you don’t see God in your life at any set point in time doesn’t mean He isn’t there. Hold to your belief in Him.

Just because you’re still wearing those same clothes, or you’re still caught up in that same predicament, doesn’t mean He isn’t in the process of BRINGING you where you need to be. What would have happened if the Israelites, standing on the banks of the Jordan, had gotten disillusioned and discouraged? The last time they did that, they went into the desert. Here Moses is talking about oil and honey and pomegranates, and all of these people have spent more years in the desert than not. They’ve spent more years in the wilderness than not. They have no idea what he’s talking about.

GET THIS… only those under 20 years old made it. It’s been 40 years past that period of culling at this point. The Israelites have been in the wilderness at least twice as long as they were out. Some were BORN in the wilderness. It’s all they know. And here’s a guy telling them about a land rich with blessings and comforts.

That’s the same situation with some Christians today. You’ve been wading through mud and driving through fog for so long that you’re starting to forget what it’s like without it. The wilderness is your home. But it won’t be forever. God’s got something in the works, and it’s not my place to understand why. My part is to simply do. And when I do, I have faith that the Lord will bring me out. So what happens when that time comes?

10 When thou hast eaten and art full, then thou shalt bless the Lord thy God for the good land which he hath given thee.

Deuteronomy 8:10

When you do get there, you bless the Lord. You thank Him and you worship Him. You don’t forget Him.

We have a tendency to get on a mountaintop and think we can see everything. We think we can anticipate and prepare for all the issues because we are high up and we’ll see problems approaching from a position of strength. But that’s not the case.

Never forget that the highest that man can go in his own power is still beneath the footstool of God. We have no intrinsic power of our own. So when we reap and enjoy the blessings God bestows upon us, we must keep the proper perspective, realizing that they are blessings and not entitlements. They are optional, not requirements. Job 13:15 says, “though he slay me, yet will I praise Him” That is the mindset that Moses is stressing in verse 10.

So when you’ve eaten and are full, it’s the Lord’s doing. When your family is strong and your health is good, it’s the Lord’s doing. When you have money in the bank and gas in the tank, don’t puff your chest out and survey your domain. You drop to your knees and give thanks.

11 Beware that thou forget not the Lord thy God, in not keeping his commandments, and his judgments, and his statutes, which I command thee this day:

12 Lest when thou hast eaten and art full, and hast built goodly houses, and dwelt therein;

13 And when thy herds and thy flocks multiply, and thy silver and thy gold is multiplied, and all that thou hast is multiplied;

14 Then thine heart be lifted up, and thou forget the Lord thy God, which brought thee forth out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage;

15 Who led thee through that great and terrible wilderness, wherein were fiery serpents, and scorpions, and drought, where there was no water; who brought thee forth water out of the rock of flint;

16 in the wilderness with Who fed thee manna, which thy fathers knew not, that he might humble thee, and that he might prove thee, to do thee good at thy latter end;

17 And thou say in thine heart, My power and the might of mine hand hath gotten me this wealth.

18 But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he sware unto thy fathers, as it is this day.

19 And it shall be, if thou do at all forget the Lord thy God, and walk after other gods, and serve them, and worship them, I testify against you this day that ye shall surely perish.

20 As the nations which the Lord destroyeth before your face, so shall ye perish; because ye would not be obedient unto the voice of the Lord your God.

Deuteronomy 8:11-20

Many people only cling to the Lord when they are weathering the wilderness, then they remove themselves from him when they get out. Some of you reading this aren’t in the wilderness. Life is chugging along exactly as you want it and you’ve forgotten the Lord. Worship has become a ritual. Life has become routine. No part of you is seeking to bless the Lord.

No part of you is seeking to come closer. You’ve become lethargic and fat on the milk and honey of the land that the Lord has brought you into. You’ve built your idols and worshipped yourself because you’ve forgotten what it means to depend on God.

I testify against you today that ye shall surely perish.

If you depend on your spouse, your job, your education, or your friends, the Lord is telling you today to BEWARE. He’s provided for you in the past, and He continues to provide. But, He loves you too much to leave you in a place where you are. He doesn’t want you to live your life in a place far removed from Him because your flesh has replaced HIM with the BLESSINGS He has given you.

So I ask you today, “what are you going to do?”

I take comfort in the fact that there were pillars of fire and cloud when the Israelites were in the wilderness. God will make His way known, even if it is simply the peace that he gives you to endure the trial that you are going through. God uses wildernesses to draw us into communication with Him.

The Lord had a plan for that demon-possessed man cutting himself with rocks in the wilderness. If you would have asked that man in his right mind if he wanted to be there, I can tell you he would say no, but BECAUSE HE WAS it led to him meeting the man who could set him free from all of it.

In 1 Kings 19, we find Elijah sitting under a juniper tree in the wilderness, requesting to die. A man who would never experience physical death is requesting to die, and God gives him a meal so good he doesn’t have to eat for 40 days as he travels to Horeb, the mount of God. He’s then hiding in a cave at Mount Horeb, and God sends an earthquake, then a fire, then A SMALL VOICE. Why does God do all this? TO GET ELIJAH’S ATTENTION.

Thus we come to the crux. The wilderness is a place where you turn your attention to God and his desires because you can no longer afford to focus on yourself and your desires. You can’t build yourself up in the process of being broken down. The purpose of the wilderness is to strip you of your self-imposed blinders and force you to tune your heart and tune your ears to that still small voice.

In doing so, two things will become crystal clear.

  1. You will find that God is a leader, protector, provider, and deliverer.

  2. You will find that you have a decision to either go all in with God or withdraw from Him completely. You and you alone have to make that decision. No one can do it for you.

The middle of the road is a poor place to walk. It is a poor place to drive. It is a poor place to live.

Vance Havner

You can’t live in the middle folks. There’s no middle ground. And I can prove it.

16 And the glory of the Lord abode upon mount Sinai, and the cloud covered it six days: and the seventh day he called unto Moses out of the midst of the cloud.

17 And the sight of the glory of the Lord was like devouring fire on the top of the mount in the eyes of the children of Israel.

18 And Moses went into the midst of the cloud, and gat him up into the mount: and Moses was in the mount forty days and forty nights.

Exodus 24:16-17

During that 40-day period, Moses is up at the mountain in the distance getting the 10 Commandments. We then come to Exodus 32, Keep in mind since Exodus 13, the Israelites have been led in the wilderness by supernatural pillars of cloud and fire. And in Exodus 23, we just saw that the people see the glory of the Lord like a devouring fire on top of the mountain. After all this evidence, what do they say to Aaron, the priest?

1 And when the people saw that Moses delayed to come down out of the mount, the people gathered themselves together unto Aaron, and said unto him, Up, make us gods, which shall go before us; for as for this Moses, the man that brought us up out of the land of Egypt, we wot not what is become of him.

Exodus 32:1

There is no middle ground folks. Here are people who SAW THE LORD WITH THEIR OWN TWO EYES, and they made the decision in the wilderness to walk away. You have a choice today. What will you do?

I choose to serve Him in the wilderness.

My papa and us grandkids had a ritual for years Whenever we’d come and visit, when it was time for us to leave, he’d walk out to the mailbox, and wave to us all the way down the dirt road. And we’d stick our hands out the windows and wave back until we took the bend and he was out of sight.

I took a picture of it when I knew that I was going to be leaving for the Wilds last summer. I wanted to remember it. I brought it with me when I moved to Charleston. The night before he died, Tuesday night, I was cleaning up after supper. I saw the picture sitting in the nook where it had been since I had moved. A weird feeling came over me. Even though I’d seen the picture a million times, I paused what I was doing and stared at it for a second and the thought crossed my mind that one day that picture was gonna make me cry. In fact, it made me look forward to getting home that upcoming weekend and visiting him. Then sure enough, I came home the next day, took it out of the frame, and broke down crying while staring at it.

I was looking forward to visiting him that weekend. He would have been sitting right there on that back row of the church as I preached this sermon. We’d have gone out for Mexican after the service. He would have told me what a great service it was, even though we both knew he couldn’t hear all of it.

For reasons I won’t know on this side of heaven, the Lord didn’t see fit to let that be. He decided to take Papa home. I see him in my mind’s eye now. He’s waving just like how he was in that picture. Except he’s on one side of the crystal sea and I’m on the other. I’m in the desert and he’s in paradise.

I say all that to say each person on this earth is standing on the banks of the Jordan right now. Our life is but a vapor, we have no idea how close we are to the end of this stage. And some of you have been in a wilderness your whole lives. Some have only found yourselves there in the last 5 years, some in the last 3 months. You may be wearing the same clothes, but they haven’t worn out. Don’t scoff when a man of God gets in a pulpit and tells you about a land of blessing and promise. A land where my Jesus is building a home for me. A land where I can rest and fellowship with him eternally. And I can see those I love who’ve accepted Him.

If you haven’t made that commitment to follow and love the Lord, you have no hope to cling to. Jesus is the only way. Works won’t do it. Connections won’t do it. Your family and friends can’t do it for you. You won’t be able to stand before the Lord and talk about stellar church attendance or record charity donations. The only thing that matters is that you bow the knee to Christ, accepting Him as Savior.

I have a voice note from Papa that I’ve listened to countless times since the 15th. It was a conversation we were having about me moving to Charleston. He wanted the Lord’s Will, he wanted me to honor my family name, and he wanted me to hold to Christ through it all. And I’ve made the decision that is what I’ll do. But today, some of you need to make that decision, rather than putting it off. Don’t let another moment go by. Life is too short. Those who you love and who love you would be devastated to know you took your last breath apart from Jesus, sentenced to eternal damnation. There’s only one way to avoid that fate, and His name is Jesus.


This article originally appeared on Fill in the Gap.

Ready to deepen your Bible study? Try Scriptured - free tools for reading, memorizing, and studying Scripture.

Pick Up the Mantle

I remember when my family first moved to Florence, SC when I was a young teenager. We spent a long time looking for a good church. I quickly found out that just because we’re in the Bible Belt doesn’t mean we’re surrounded by the Bible. The South has become engulfed in cultural Christianity. Everyone says they’re a Christian. But fewer and fewer understand what it really means to be a Christian.

When my family came to PEACE Church, a man named Donnie Miles was the pastor. We found a gem in a bin full of rocks. A church with solid Bible preaching, traditional values, and a desire to follow the Lord’s will. And then Pastor Donnie announced my retirement and my family was thrown into a tailspin. What were we going to do? What was God doing? We’d finally found a good church after such a long time of searching, and, here we were, about to have to sit under yet another pastor.

As I will continue to come back to throughout this post, God knew exactly what he was doing. You see, he brought a special family into our lives as a result of Pastor Donnie’s retirement. He brought the Stone family. Throughout the past 7 years, God has given me the opportunity to sit under Mrs. Stone’s Sunday School teaching. I was able to teach and mentor the oldest son in teen class and Bible Study. I spent a week as the counselor to the youngest son at the Wilds. But, what is most on my mind today, he gave me the opportunity to sit under the pastorship of Joel Stone. This was a man who believed in me, believed in God’s Will for my life, and gave me the very opportunity to preach from the pulpit of PEACE Free Will Baptist. A few weeks before his death, he asked me if I’d preach for him one Sunday. I had no idea the circumstances. When his wife asked me a couple of weeks later if I’d preach the Sunday before as well, I had no idea the circumstances. When I got the news of his sudden passing Tuesday night, July 5th, I became angry at God. The Lord took my Papa and then orchestrated me to preach the following Sunday. Now, He had taken my pastor, widowed a mother, made two young boys fatherless, and orchestrated me to preach. I had prayed that 2023 would be a year of growth in my life. I forgot to specify to God that I just wanted to grow into a new job and a new location. I didn’t want to grow like this.

Then, the question began to weigh heavy on my mind. What do you do when a man of God has gone on? Joel was many things to many people. A role model, a father, a pastor, a friend, a teacher, a confidant, a minister, a shepherd, a caretaker. The hole that was left by him wouldn’t be easily filled.

It is times like these where the brevity, the shortness of life, really hits home. Joel said it many times from the pulpit… YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN GOD WILL CALL YOU HOME.

As I thought about that, I was reminded of a particular man of God in the Bible. He was a man who knew when God would call him home. Before God took him though, he raised another man who would take his place.

Many know of Elijah the Tishbite, the prophet of Gilead. We are first introduced to him in 1 Kings 17, as he prophesies draught to the wicked king Ahab. Elijah knew a little something about God’s provision. In 1 Kings 17:3, God told him to tarry by the brook Cherith. There God commanded the ravens to feed him. When the brook dried up in verse 12 (boy there’s a sermon there), God sent him to the house of a poor widow who was preparing her last meal for herself and her boy, so that they could eat it and die. God used her faith to provide for all three of them. God gave Elijah the power to heal the sick, call fire down from heaven, and beat Ahab’s chariot on foot in a 25-mile race. He stood in opposition to the pagan prophets, slaying 450 with his own two hands. He built altars. He split waters. If someone knew a little something about God’s provision and power, it was Elijah the Tishbite.

Elijah was by no means perfect. He had fear. He had doubts. He got so scared of Jezebel in 1 Kings 19 that he fled into the wilderness alone and prayed to God that he might die. God sustained him alone in that wilderness, with another miraculous appearance of bread, baked on the coals, and a cruse of water that had appeared by his head. After he’d rested and eaten again, he didn’t eat for 40 days and 40 nights as he hiked to Mount Horeb and lodged himself in a cave, where God eventually showed him that he didn’t have to use whirlwinds and earthquakes and flames to make Himself known. He could be known by the still small voice.

Throughout the many conversations I had with Pastor Joel throughout the years, I saw how often he wanted God to move in fires and whirlwinds, and sometimes God did. But many times God spoke to Joel through a still small voice in that church office, behind that big desk, as he studied and prayed and labored in the Word. Sometimes, God spoke to him as he got in that truck and drove to the hospital or to the homes of his parishioners. Through that spiritual labor, God spoke to him and gave him the words this congregation needed to hear.

Those were the words he delivered from the pulpit, often with tears in his eyes, as he implored the flock that God had entrusted him with to GET RIGHT WITH THE LORD. The burden that he felt for each person, saved and unsaved, who walked through that door showed. Indeed, as it should have.

As I stood behind that same pulpit the Sunday after his death, I begged the congregation to not allow complacency to enter their hearts and the church. If a man does not have the conviction in his life to teach the save and reach the lost, he is not fit for the office of pastor. If he has no burden for a lost and dying world that is one breath away from an eternity in hellfire, he is not fit for the office of pastor. If he doesn’t stand on the principles of God and feel a burden to build and share those principles with others, he has no place leading the Lord’s flock.

Elijah had a burden for the people he was called to minister to. Twice at Mount Horeb, we see him tell God how the children of Israel have forsaken the covenant, thrown down God’s altars, and slain his prophets. That was a burden that Elijah carried throughout the entirety of his ministry, and that was a burden that was passed on to his successor, Elisha. When Elijah came down from that mount, and when he finally understood that God was in the still, small voice, God gave him Elisha.


15 And the Lord said unto him, Go, return on thy way to the wilderness of Damascus: and when thou comest, anoint Hazael to be king over Syria:

16 And Jehu the son of Nimshi shalt thou anoint to be king over Israel: and Elisha the son of Shaphat of Abelmeholah shalt thou anoint to be prophet in thy room (in your place).

1 Kings 19:15-16

Skip down a few verses to verse 19…

19 So he departed thence, and found Elisha the son of Shaphat, who was plowing with twelve yoke of oxen before him, and he with the twelfth: and Elijah passed by him, and cast his mantle upon him

_1 Kings 19:1_9


We’re gonna come back to that. He cast his mantle upon him. That is, he took the cloak that he was wearing and wrapped it around Elisha’s shoulders.

This was symbolic. This was Elijah’s act of selecting his successor. This was Elisha’s act of accepting the call.

And thus, the ministry of Elijah and Elisha began. Scholars believe they served somewhere between 6 and 8 years together. The Bible doesn’t give us much concerning those years, but we pick up where we will be spending the majority of the post today. Let’s read 2 Kings 2:1-12.


1And it came to pass, when the Lord would take up Elijah into heaven by a whirlwind, that Elijah went with Elisha from Gilgal.

2 And Elijah said unto Elisha, Tarry here, I pray thee; for the Lord hath sent me to Bethel. And Elisha said unto him, As the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, I will not leave thee. So they went down to Bethel.

3 And the sons of the prophets that were at Bethel came forth to Elisha, and said unto him, Knowest thou that the Lord will take away thy master from thy head to day? And he said, Yea, I know it; hold ye your peace.

4 And Elijah said unto him, Elisha, tarry here, I pray thee; for the Lord hath sent me to Jericho. And he said, As the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, I will not leave thee. So they came to Jericho.

5 And the sons of the prophets that were at Jericho came to Elisha, and said unto him, Knowest thou that the Lord will take away thy master from thy head to day? And he answered, Yea, I know it; hold ye your peace.

6 And Elijah said unto him, Tarry, I pray thee, here; for the Lord hath sent me to Jordan. And he said, As the Lord liveth, and as thy soul liveth, I will not leave thee. And they two went on.

7 And fifty men of the sons of the prophets went, and stood to view afar off: and they two stood by Jordan.

8 And Elijah took his mantle, and wrapped it together, and smote the waters, and they were divided hither and thither, so that they two went over on dry ground.

9 And it came to pass, when they were gone over, that Elijah said unto Elisha, Ask what I shall do for thee, before I be taken away from thee. And Elisha said, I pray thee, let a double portion of thy spirit be upon me.

10 And he said, Thou hast asked a hard thing: nevertheless, if thou see me when I am taken from thee, it shall be so unto thee; but if not, it shall not be so.

11 And it came to pass, as they still went on, and talked, that, behold, there appeared a chariot of fire, and horses of fire, and parted them both asunder; and Elijah went up by a whirlwind into heaven.

12 And Elisha saw it, and he cried, My father, my father, the chariot of Israel, and the horsemen thereof. And he saw him no more: and he took hold of his own clothes, and rent them in two pieces.

2 Kings 2:1-12


4 places are mentioned. God sent Elijah to 4 specific places before he took him home to glory. Gilgal, Bethel, Jericho, Jordan.

Gilgal means “to roll away.”. It was where the children of Israel were circumcised and they were set apart from the other nations. That paganism, in a sense, was “rolled off” of them.

9 And the Lord said unto Joshua, This day have I rolled away the reproach of Egypt from off you. Wherefore the name of the place is called Gilgal unto this day.

10 And the children of Israel encamped in Gilgal, and kept the passover on the fourteenth day of the month at even in the plains of Jericho.

Joshua 5:9-10

Bethel is translated “house of God”. This was where Jacob met the Lord, as he slept out in the wilderness.

16 And Jacob awaked out of his sleep, and he said, Surely the Lord is in this place; and I knew it not.

17 And he was afraid, and said, How dreadful is this place! this is none other but the house of God, and this is the gate of heaven.

18 And Jacob rose up early in the morning, and took the stone that he had put for his pillows, and set it up for a pillar, and poured oil upon the top of it.19 And he called the name of that place Bethel: but the name of that city was called Luz at the first.

Genesis 28:16-19

Jericho was where the walls fell in Joshua 5.

Jordan was the place where, in Joshua 3, when the feet of the priests touched the water, the waters split and Israelites crossed over on dry land. It was also where Jesus would one day be baptized.

Do you see the progression? This is the life of a servant of God.

The eternal price of sin is rolled off of you and onto Jesus when you accept him.

You come to a realization of who God is, just as Jacob did at Bethel. His presence is felt in your life.

As you feel that presence, you begin to know about the things in your life that are wrong. You see your wickedness and your sin. Those walls have to come down. Jericho must fall.

Then, you have to exhibit that faith as those priests did at the Jordan, dipping their toes into that water with the expectation that God was going to do something. As we’ll see, God was about to do something big in Elisha’s life.

Notice in 2 Kings 2:12 that Elisha cried and rent his clothes in two pieces. He mourned.

Understand that there is no weakness nor shame in sadness. It was okay for Elisha to mourn. It was okay for him to feel it. His mentor, his leader had been taken from him suddenly. He tore his clothes. A sign of extreme pain and weeping. A sign of devastation.

The Christian life is full of twists and turns and unexpected outcomes. Without the valleys we’d never appreciate the mountains. When I am at my lowest point, the only place I can look is upwards.

Where we falter is when we let that grief and pain define our existence. We don’t continue to move for the Lord. We don’t continue to seek to impact others for the cause of Christ. We let our pain and hurt form a cocoon around us and we don’t move and we don’t serve.

You know what they call a caterpillar that never comes out of its cocoon? Dead.

God designed the beauty of a butterfly to be formed in a cocoon. But, the butterfly doesn’t stay in that cocoon. It must come out eventually.

Similarly, there needs to be time to mourn and to greive. However, we do ourselves and our Lord a disservice if that is where we choose to stay. For it is very often that we see grief morph into bitterness. Bitterness is nothing more than a petulant refusal to grow in the circumstances that God has placed you in.

Elisha didn’t choose to stay that way.

Notice in 2 Kings 2:13-14 that Elisha wasn’t paralyzed with distress. He wasn’t frozen in his grief. He picked up the mantle.

What did that mantle symbolize? It symbolized the work and the power that God had demonstrated through Elijah. That mantle was ministry. Remember that this is not Elisha’s first experience with Elijah’s mantle.

19 So he departed thence, and found Elisha the son of Shaphat, who was plowing with twelve yoke of oxen before him, and he with the twelfth: and Elijah passed by him, and cast his mantle upon him

1 Kings 19:19

Understand that there is a time in your life when a man of God will cast a mantle upon you, and there is a time you must pick it up yourself.

You should not be okay or content with being spoonfed God’s word from a pulpit. You should not be okay or content with shallow motivational messages filled with funny stories taught by pastors with too much hair gel. When are you going to pick up the mantle in your life? God has given us all unique positions to speak truth into the lives of people, but you can’t speak the truth if you don’t know it for yourself.

Elisha utilized what Elijah had left for God’s glory. He literally picked up what Elijah had left off. Elijah had no need for his mantle anymore. He had gone to be with his Savior and Lord. He was called away quickly. He was called away suddenly,

He didn’t need the mantle anymore. His time of ministry was ended. I realized that my pastor, Joel Stone, was effectively out of a job on July 4, 2023. There’s no preaching to the unsaved in heaven. There are no hospital visits in heaven. I hope the Lord gave him something to do because Lord knows he was always trying to be busy 😁!

All jokes aside, do you know who needs the mantle? The people who can still use it. The men who are still here. You and me.

Someone had to pick up the mantle. And you know what, for whatever reason, God put Elisha in the position to pick up the mantle. I know without a shadow of a doubt that God is orchestrating for someone specifically to pick up Joel Stone’s mantle as pastor of PEACE Church.

I told the church that day that the mantle should not be forced upon someone, and the church must not settle for “good enough” God had a specific plan for Donnie Miles to be here, then Joel Stone. The eternal divine plan hadn’t ended. Another man would pick up the mantle.

Note this. God doesn’t mold people into certain callings, He simply gives it to them, and we would take well to learn that now.

27 And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:

Hebrews 9:27

There’s only so much gas in your tank. The ride will come to an end one day, and then you will be judged on how well you performed with the ministry opportunities that you were given.

Joel went through a lot of lasts before God took him home. The last time he was able to lead someone to the Lord. The last time he was able to counsel a fellow believer. The last time he was able to talk to his parents. The last time he was able to hug his boys, the last time he was able to kiss his wife. The last time he was able to preach from that pulpit. He had no idea, just as you and I have no idea, when we will experience our lasts. That’s why we must take every opportunity to speak and live for the Lord with the people he has given us.

What does that mean practically in the life of a Christian?

Children must not continually harbor bitterness towards their parents. If you’ve been wronged, you forgive. If you’ve been properly corrected, you seek to learn and change. Those couples who give each other icy silent treatment then put on a show for the outside world, need to sit down and talk it out. No matter how difficult it may seem. Unity is of the utmost importance. The way in which you conduct yourself among your coworkers or your classmates should be a carbon copy of how you would conduct yourself if Jesus stood before you. Notice this…

14 And he took the mantle of Elijah that fell from him, and smote the waters, and said, Where is the Lord God of Elijah? and when he also had smitten the waters, they parted hither and thither: and Elisha went over.

2 Kings 2:14

Elisha asked God a question. In his grief and in his loss he asks God where he is. Notice he says Lord and God. Two names of God. Jehovah and Elohim, the eternal (Jehovah) and supreme (Elohim) God. There is none like him Where is the Lord God of Elijah? The more complete translation of the Hebrew is this.

“Lord and God of Elijah? Surely, He is still the same.”

It’s not just a question. It’s a question with an answer. That’s the realization we all must come to now. That is the answer that we must bring ourselves back to whenever dark times befall us in life. Our God is still the same.

And because Elisha knows that his God is still the same, he can step out on faith in God’s power and strike the water. He doesn’t ask the question and then sit immovable. As he asks the question he smites the waters. You have to smite the waters. You have to pick up the mantle and use it. It does no good to simply hold it.

I can acknowledge my God is still the same, but until I act on that knowledge, it is useless. Our God is still the same. Pick up the mantle. Smite the water. God will bring the increase. God will get the glory. God will grow you. If you were to number the miracles of Elisha and the miracles of Elijah in the Bible, you would see that Elisha had double that of Elijah. He asked for a double portion of Elijah’s spirit and of his ministry. God granted it to him. Oh that we would ask for a double portion! For bountiful opportunities to give God glory in the work that we do for him as we carry on through the remainder of our time here!

Have you picked up the ministry that God has placed on your life?

Some of you fathers need to pick up the mantle and lead your family in a godly fashion. There are mothers out there who need to pick up the mantle by supporting their husbands and rearing their children in admonishment and love. It’s important that we teach our kids that they are never too young to pick up the mantle and do for the Lord. Look at what the Bible says here…

42 And whosoever shall give to drink unto one of these little ones a cup of cold water only in the name of a disciple, verily I say unto you, he shall in no wise lose his reward.

Matthew 10:42

See. Anyone of any ability and any age can pick up the mantle and serve the Lord!

But, before you can pick up the mantle, you must have Christ as Lord and Savior of your life.

Remember, the unsaved have “lasts” in their lives just as the saved do. If you’ve never accepted Christ, today is the day of salvation, I plead with you. Send me a message. I’d love to go through what it means to accept the call of Christ and begin living with eternal purpose. Though it hurts right now, I take comfort in the fact that one day I’ll see Joel Stone again. Do you have that comfort of eternal security in your life? Have you picked up the mantle?


This article originally appeared on Fill in the Gap.

Ready to deepen your Bible study? Try Scriptured - free tools for reading, memorizing, and studying Scripture.

Is It Okay to Drink?

I’m just gonna level with everyone off the jump… I’ve never understood the allure of alcohol. From the time I was in middle school, to now, I’ve had people try to convince me to give it a try. “Just a swig”, “just a beer”, “just a taste”, “just a sip”. I’ve heard it all. For some reason, I’ve held out. I vividly remember my papa asking me when I was a kid, “what happens to grain when a donkey digests it?” “It ferments in his stomach I suppose” was the response I gave. He then asked, “What color is mule pee son?”. “Yellow”, I replied. He said, “that’s why beer is the color it is. It ferments. And it tastes exactly like mule pee!” I’ve never verified his comparison, but Papa was a pretty smart man, so I have no reason to go against it.

On a more objective note, I guess I’ve never seen the appeal of it. My grandmother’s family all hailed from Reno, Nevada. Most of them were stereotypical trailer park trash drunks. There is an old picture in a family album of my great-grandfather passed out drunk upside down over the back of a couch on Christmas. Also in the picture is his young son, who would later become an alcoholic as well. The way he looked at his dad has always stuck with me. I can’t shake it. The innocence on his face as he looked upon something that would eventually destroy his life also serves as a constant reminder. It’s a reminder that my actions not only affect me but also those I love.

I know many of my family members who have struggled with drinking, and research shows that genes are responsible for about half of the risk for alcoholism. In all my years, I’ve heard plenty of stories of people trying to STOP drinking. They’ll get accountability partners, go to AA, make a big scene of pouring beers down the sink. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. In contrast, I’ve heard very few stories about people trying to START drinking. Seems like it’s one of those things that’s hard to stop once you get started, so I figure maybe I’m ahead of the 8-ball and I need to keep it that way.

Not only that, but I have yet to see the benefit. All those guys out drinking are putting on pounds in the form of a beer gut. They get nasty headaches in the morning, and then you ask them what they did the night before and they don’t remember. So much money is wasted on drinks. That money going towards fancy cocktails, liquor, and IPAs would be WAY better spent on your kids, your house, or your debts. Shoot, even things like a new dress for your SO, a new bike, some new shoes, etc.

I know of marriages that have ended in divorce because of a man’s drinking problem. I know kids who have become estranged because of a father’s drinking problem. Houses have been put into foreclosure, cars have been wrapped around trees, people have gone to jail for domestic abuse and manslaughter, and liver failure diagnoses have been given, all on account of some drink. Maybe I’m just a wimp, but all the things I just listed scare me. But Sam… what about some harmless partying? You mean to tell me a party can’t be fun until you don’t remember it anymore? What sense does that make? Do you have to be tipsy before you can be comfortable enough in your own skin to be relaxed and have a good time? Seems like the alcohol is just covering up some deeper issues if that’s the case. Perhaps you need to take a look at our first point here…

Know Yourself

If you don’t know yourself, you will fail. That goes for any area of life.

A man who does not know himself cannot fully control himself.

That lack of control will manifest itself and cause issues at some point. As I said earlier, I know that alcoholism is somewhat influenced by my genes, and it would seem that my family struggles with it. Therefore, I can use all of two brain cells to determine that my genetic makeup would be working against my best interest if I decided to take a sip.

Not only that, but I know I have a smattering of OCD. This is a fact that I have discovered about myself. There are times it has helped me, such as when my OCD study habits allowed me to skip years of school. But, there are also times when it has hurt me, like when I would be compulsively pulled toward pornography. Knowing this, I know without a doubt that, if I tried alcohol and liked it, I would have put a thorn in my flesh that I would have to battle till the day I die.

You see, my compulsive tendencies make it hard to say no to things that I crave. I craved educational success, so I went through a period of compulsively studying. I craved heightened sexual release, so I went through a period of compulsively watching porn. As I write this, I am in a stage of life where I am craving the feeling of competency in my job, so I have been averaging 55 to 60-hour weeks for almost 9 months, trying to get to it as soon as possible. There is a compulsive desire to work. I feel guilty if I work less than 55 hours a week! It’s a problem I am actively working on. The point is this though… what happens if I end up craving alcohol? If I follow the pattern that I know about myself, then I will compulsively drink. This will significantly heighten my chances of becoming an alcoholic. This, of course, is no bueno.

Some of you are afraid to know yourselves because you’re afraid of what you might find. That’s probably a subject for another post, and we’ll no doubt get to it, but the principle is this: man up. I openly recognize both the traits of my life that I find attractive and distasteful. When you look in the mirror, you don’t tape a piece of paper on the mirror to cover the part of you you don’t like. Why? Well, because it’s foolish of course! Mirrors give you the full picture. It’s no different when you look at yourself inwardly. Take it all in, the good, bad, and ugly. Attempt to minimize your weaknesses and exaggerate your strengths. One of the ways I’ve attempted to minimize a weakness I know about myself has been to remove the option to drink from my presence if at all possible.

It’s not always easy. When my papa died tragically in a car crash in March, I wanted to check out so bad. I wanted to get rip-roaring drunk and forget about it all. It would have been easy. But then, in my head, I heard him ask me about mule pee again, and I staved off the temptation.

Know others

You don’t only have to be aware of yourself, but also those around you. Case in point, at the time of this writing, I work in a steel mill and live in Charleston, SC. Charleston, SC is ranked as the drunkest county in SC, with 23% of adults saying that they drink excessively. That’s almost 1 in 4. I see it with my own two eyes. There are 5 places in a quarter-mile radius of my apartment where I can get the goods to get absolutely plastered if I so choose.

Adding on top of that, I work in a mill. That means I work with a lot of fellas who’ve been “excessively drinking” since before I was born. It’s almost a cultural thing. A rite of passage. So when I turned 21 and STILL said no, you can imagine some of the questions I got. I was the only one on my team who didn’t. When I went out with work buddies, I was one of the few who didn’t partake. They couldn’t understand why a man of my age, making the money I make, living in the area I live, would not be drinking. My answer was very plain and simple.

“I don’t want to risk my son”. It’s always funny to watch people’s faces when I say that. Most immediately try to figure out if I’m a father, or they just stutter because that’s the last thing they expect me to say. It goes back to knowing others. To an extent, I know how my son will be because I know how I am. I’m not saying I know he’s going to have OCD, or like playing guitar, or have curly hair. But I do know that there will be a time in his life (hopefully a long time) when he will look up to me. Why? Because I look up to my Dad. Even now.

I’m going to be my son’s superhero. He’ll probably brag about me on the playground. He’s going to try to wear my boots and my dress shirt. He’s going to want to wear my aftershave and cologne. I know that’s how I viewed my father when I was a boy. Lord-willing, just as my dad did me, I’ll teach my son how to change the oil in his car, shoot a gun, take a girl out on a proper date, etc. With the Lord’s help though, one thing I won’t do is teach him how to drink.

This is the problem that many guys fall into when they say, “Well, I can handle it”. I have no doubt that some of them can. But what about your kids? How can you know if they’ll be able to handle it? It would torture me to no end to know that my kid looked at a bottle of alcohol and justified his first sip by saying, “Well, Dad can handle it, so I can too”. If it turns out they can’t handle it, you will bear part of the responsibility. Why? Because you put forth an example that opened your kid up to unnecessary dangers. I don’t want that on my conscience. I don’t want to risk my son.

Know your Bible

Lastly, and most importantly, you ought to know your Bible. Off the rip, let me emphasize that the Bible says nowhere explicitly “thou shalt not drink”. If a preacher or pastor ever says the Bible speaks against alcohol itself, he is not properly expounding the Scripture. Now, that being said, the Bible explicitly says that drunkenness is a sin. Considering the majority of people drink for the sole purpose of getting buzzed, drunk, tipsy, plastered, (choose whatever word you like), then we can see where drinking in and of itself would be unwise. Here are some key verses.

And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit

Ephesians 5:18

Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.

Proverbs 20:1

Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying

Romans 13:13

Also, we see multiple times in the Bible where drunkenness led to even MORE sin and problems. Lot got drunk, slept with his daughters, and had incestuous children (Genesis 19:30-38). Noah’s nakedness was revealed to his son because he got plastered in his tent (Genesis 9:21-25). The examples go on and on.

In essence, the Bible seems to indicate that partaking in drinking isn’t wise. Therefore, I choose not to do it. That being said, look at what Paul has to say in 1 Corinthians 10:23:

All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not.

1 Corinthians 10:23

Expedient basically means “appropriate”. Paul is saying there are a lot of things this world deems lawful that aren’t appropriate. There are a lot of things that the world deems lawful that don’t edify God. Think about some of the media that you hear in podcasts. Think about some of the ideas espoused in blockbuster films. These are things that may be lawful and acceptable in the eyes of the world, but they aren’t appropriate in God’s. They don’t edify and glorify Him. You can do it, but it doesn’t serve a higher purpose. I think drinking is definitely something that falls into this category.

I make many decisions by generating pro/con lists. I don’t always write them out. Oftentimes I simply weigh the benefits and detriments in my head, and whichever side weighs more is the side I fall on. When it comes to drinking, the negative FAR outweighs the positive. Being well-liked socially and/or being part of the “in” crowd doesn’t cancel out hangover headaches, beer guts, liver problems, rash decisions, altered brain state, bad parental examples, and all the other bad side effects of being drunk with alcohol. As Men of Might, we must avoid these things.

You should never take man’s word at face value, including mine. All decisions must be filtered through the lens of what God says through his Holy Word. You make your decision, and you stand by its consequences. For me, drinking is a hard pass.


This article originally appeared on Fill in the Gap.

Ready to deepen your Bible study? Try Scriptured - free tools for reading, memorizing, and studying Scripture.

Why You Need an Air Fryer

Let’s face it. Cooking isn’t always the most fun thing in the world. It gets considerably better when you do it with someone else, or for someone else. However, if you’re just a single dude, cooking is probably one of the furthest things from your mind. I get it. I’m there. Back when I lived at home, I would cook regularly. Coming from a family of five with a working mama, I learned from a young age how to cook, and I kept on doing it right up until I moved out.

After about a month of living in my first apartment, I looked at the stainless steel stove in the kitchen and said “nope, I don’t think I will”. I tried my hardest to come home after my 12-hour workdays and cook a meal every night, but it wasn’t working. I even tried cutting back on my gym routine to give myself more time in the kitchen. It was a no bueno. After a couple of false starts, each of which I tried to reinvigorate my love of cooking, I came to the conclusion that it would stay gone until I had someone to cook for. And here I am.

That being said, I still had to figure out a way to eat healthily. A lot of guys never learn to cook, and the ones who do mostly get like me and get lazy while rocking the bachelor life. There are only so many preservative-filled frozen dinners and PB&J sandwiches a man can eat before he realizes he needs a new solution. This solution came to me in the form of a piece of kitchen gadgetry that I will probably never get rid of… the air fryer. I bought that exact model and never looked back. In fact, I turned in a Crockpot and used the refund to swap out if I remember correctly.

Owning an air fryer has been one of the best health decisions I’ve made since moving out on my own. It’s almost on par with my decision to not drink. Making a habit of using my air fryer has allowed me to maintain some culinary skills, while not having to take time to make a huge meal every night. Having one checks a TON of different boxes regarding my eating habits, it’s INSANELY easy to clean, and it makes KILLER steaks. Stick around till the end to get the last air fryer steak recipe you’ll ever need 😉. If a kitchen gadget can do those 3 things, you need it. If you’re dipping your toes into the world of cooking, or you don’t feel like spending an hour in the kitchen every night, then this thing can turn your life around. Usually, the phrase goes easy to learn, hard to master. I’d submit to you that, when it comes to air fryers, the phrase is easy to learn, hard to mess up. With the exception of burning a piece of meat to a blackened piece of charcoal, there’s no way you’ll screw this up.

Lower fat content = healthy heart

Are you one of those guys who’s trying to get shredded? Do you like to hit the trails and go on a run every day? If so, you probably want to keep track of the amount of unhealthy fats you’re consuming while you’re trying to build and maintain an excellent Man of Might physique. Air fryers require significantly less oil compared to traditional frying methods. This means you can enjoy crispy foods with less saturated fat, which is better for your heart health. Not only that, but, because you’re using less oil, the calorie content of your favorite fried foods is reduced. This can be especially helpful for those looking to manage their calorie intake.

For instance, I’ve always been a huge fan of french fries. I’m that guy who’ll dunk ‘em in ice cream just as soon as I will ketchup. What can I say? I’m a bit unhinged regarding my fast food life choices. Regardless, I know without a shadow of a doubt that if I cut some potatoes up into strips and throw them in the air fryer with a little bit of salt, I’ll get something much healthier than those greasy, salty thin fries at McDonald’s (not to say I won’t indulge in those occasionally haha)

Healthy eating is easier, but junk food works fine too.

Potatoes are just the start. Initially designed to create healthier fried dishes, air fryers have since transformed into versatile kitchen appliances. These handy devices go beyond simply making your favorite fried foods more health-conscious; they excel at baking, broiling, grilling, roasting, reheating leftovers, and effortlessly cooking frozen meals. For instance, I’ve gotten to the point now where I make these amazing kale chips that are healthy and also cut the edge off when I’m in that “5-course meal” mood. The possibilities are almost endless. Roasted cauliflower, air-fried coconut shrimp, sweet potatoes, and baked oatmeal. Air fryers can also be used to cook a wide variety of foods, from vegetables to lean proteins. This versatility encourages people to cook more at home and opt for healthier ingredients. Plus, air frying cooks food quickly and with minimal exposure to high heat, helping to preserve more of the vitamins and nutrients in your ingredients.

And, if you still want to eat a little junk food every once in a while, you can. Reheating pizza in an air fryer will come out crispy, as opposed to soggy like in the microwave. I throw frozen pizza rolls in it in a pinch. 400 °F for 10 minutes. Bam. Want to make a tray of brownies? No problem. I use my air fryer almost exactly like an oven (I just don’t have to wait forever for the preheat cycle to finish!)

Air fryers are safe, quick, and cheap

Are you trying to cut down on your energy bill a bit? Leave that huge oven turned off and use the air fryer instead. Are you trying to not spend 15 minutes before you cook waiting for a preheat cycle to finish and then 15 minutes after cleaning up a bunch of dirty pots, pans, and utensils? Air fryers don’t need a preheat, so forget that. Get a couple of silicone air fryer liners and you don’t have to clean up nearly as much afterward. On top of that, I don’t have to worry about trying to clean my oven from top to bottom when some cheese burns or some other debris gets caked on the walls or racks. Scrubbing down a small 4-quart air fryer basket is SO much easier.

I’ve been called a bull in a china shop a few times in my life. Because of this classification, I’ve come to know that I don’t have the best hand-eye coordination in the world. I fully identify with the nickname. Indeed, I’m not always the most polished and delicate in the way I move. Because I know this about myself, I know that I’m not going to mix well with large quantities of hot liquid, like oil and water. Guess what? An air fryer removes that issue. There’s no hot oil to clean up when I’m done air frying! Additionally, that greasy smell that cooking oil leaves in the air, in my hair, and on my clothes is nonexistent when I use my air fryer. That’s a HUGE win in my book.

Bro.. the steak is the best part

As promised, before the article ends, I want to put each one of you fellas on peak game. I didn’t believe it till I tried it, and now I’m never going back. This steak, paired with some baked potatoes and buttered asparagus (bonus points if you do those in the air fryer as well) will be your go-to meal for movie nights, date nights, hanging out with buddies, and any other event in between. You’ll have that girl you’re trying to impress thinking you’re Gordon Ramsey, and who doesn’t want that 😁? This recipe is LEGIT. Enjoy.

What you need

  1. A steak (I like New York style, but any cut, preferably 1 inch thick, works)

  2. Mustard

  3. Kinders Caramelized Onion Butter Seasoning

  4. Salt

  5. Pepper

Steps

  1. Take your preferred steak out of the fridge and set it on a plate or cutting board.

  2. Squirt some mustard on each side to use as a binder, and lightly coat with salt and pepper

  3. Allow the steak to sit and rest for about 30 minutes.

  4. After the steaks have reached room temperature, to enhance the flavor further, generously season each side of the steak with Kinders. Pat the seasoning on. DON’T rub it in.

  5. Position the steaks in the air fryer basket, ensuring they are arranged in a single layer with a gap of at least ¼ to ½ inch between each steak. This spacing allows for optimal air circulation and ensures your steak cooks to perfection.

  6. Air-fry your steaks at 400 degrees Fahrenheit for 10-14 minutes, remembering to flip them midway through the cooking process. The exact cooking duration will vary based on how well-done you prefer your steak. If you’re dealing with larger or thicker cuts, you might need to add an extra minute or two to the cooking time.

  7. After finishing the air frying process for the steak, take the basket out of the air fryer and transfer the steaks to a cutting board or a cookie sheet. Let them rest for about 10-15 minutes before serving. This resting period helps the meat’s juices to redistribute, ensuring the steak stays tender on the inside.

A little trick I like to do as well, both for presentation and flavor profile, is take some garlic butter and allow it to melt over the top of the hot steak in Step 7. If I’m feeling particularly adventurous I’ll put a few drops of fresh lime juice on it as well!

Also, just as a reminder, according to the FDA…

  • Rare Steak- 125 degrees °F

  • Medium-Rare Steak- 135 degrees °F

  • Medium Steak- 145 degrees °F

  • Medium Well Steak- 155 degrees °F

  • Well Done Steak- 160 degrees °F

Happy air-fryer grilling fellas. Let me know what you think!


This article originally appeared on Fill in the Gap.

Ready to deepen your Bible study? Try Scriptured - free tools for reading, memorizing, and studying Scripture.

Emerods and Mice

Read

1 Samuel 6:1-21

1And the ark of the Lord was in the country of the Philistines seven months.

2 And the Philistines called for the priests and the diviners, saying, What shall we do to the ark of the Lord? tell us wherewith we shall send it to his place.

3 And they said, If ye send away the ark of the God of Israel, send it not empty; but in any wise return him a trespass offering: then ye shall be healed, and it shall be known to you why his hand is not removed from you.

4 Then said they, What shall be the trespass offering which we shall return to him? They answered, Five golden emerods, and five golden mice, according to the number of the lords of the Philistines: for one plague was on you all, and on your lords.

5 Wherefore ye shall make images of your emerods, and images of your mice that mar the land; and ye shall give glory unto the God of Israel: peradventure he will lighten his hand from off you, and from off your gods, and from off your land.

6 Wherefore then do ye harden your hearts, as the Egyptians and Pharaoh hardened their hearts? when he had wrought wonderfully among them, did they not let the people go, and they departed?

7 Now therefore make a new cart, and take two milch kine, on which there hath come no yoke, and tie the kine to the cart, and bring their calves home from them:

8 And take the ark of the Lord, and lay it upon the cart; and put the jewels of gold, which ye return him for a trespass offering, in a coffer by the side thereof; and send it away, that it may go.

9 And see, if it goeth up by the way of his own coast to Bethshemesh, then he hath done us this great evil: but if not, then we shall know that it is not his hand that smote us: it was a chance that happened to us.

10 And the men did so; and took two milch kine, and tied them to the cart, and shut up their calves at home:

11 And they laid the ark of the Lord upon the cart, and the coffer with the mice of gold and the images of their emerods.

12 And the kine took the straight way to the way of Bethshemesh, and went along the highway, lowing as they went, and turned not aside to the right hand or to the left; and the lords of the Philistines went after them unto the border of Bethshemesh.

13 And they of Bethshemesh were reaping their wheat harvest in the valley: and they lifted up their eyes, and saw the ark, and rejoiced to see it.

14 And the cart came into the field of Joshua, a Bethshemite, and stood there, where there was a great stone: and they clave the wood of the cart, and offered the kine a burnt offering unto the Lord.

15 And the Levites took down the ark of the Lord, and the coffer that was with it, wherein the jewels of gold were, and put them on the great stone; and the men of Bethshemesh offered burnt offerings and sacrificed sacrifices the same day unto the Lord.

16 And when the five lords of the Philistines had seen it, they returned to Ekron the same day.

17 And these are the golden emerods which the Philistines returned for a trespass offering unto the Lord; for Ashdod one, for Gaza one, for Askelon one, for Gath one, for Ekron one;

18 And the golden mice, according to the number of all the cities of the Philistines belonging to the five lords, both of fenced cities, and of country villages, even unto the great stone of Abel, whereon they set down the ark of the Lord: which stone remaineth unto this day in the field of Joshua, the Bethshemite.

19 And he smote the men of Bethshemesh, because they had looked into the ark of the Lord, even he smote of the people fifty thousand and threescore and ten men: and the people lamented, because the Lord had smitten many of the people with a great slaughter.

20 And the men of Bethshemesh said, Who is able to stand before this holy Lord God? and to whom shall he go up from us?

21 And they sent messengers to the inhabitants of Kirjathjearim, saying, The Philistines have brought again the ark of the Lord; come ye down, and fetch it up to you.


Reflect

After 7 months, the Philistines had enough of God’s judgment, so they decided to send the ark back. They gave an offering of gold emerods (golden molds of hemorrhoids, yuck!) and golden mice. Kind of nasty, but gold is gold. The milk cows left their young and took the art directly to Israel, which was miraculous, as a mother cow never left her young. However, the men of Bethshemesh, where the ark was taken to, decided to look inside of it. This was a desecration of the holiness of the Lord, and He judged the men accordingly. Rightfully so, this brought the people of the town back into a correct understanding of how they related to the Lord, for they said “Who is able to stand before this holy Lord God?”. Oh that we would feel that same conviction today.

Remember

God is holy. He will not be disrespected by his children or the pagans. Acts 10:25-37 tells us He is no respecter of persons. This means he will hold me in the same regard that He holds the president of the United States. Manmade titles and accolades have no bearing in the realm of eternity or its Creator.

It is human nature to commemorate things, even if it is slightly (or really) icky. Some of us would think that the Philistines were odd for making golden images of their hemorrhoids to send to the Israelites. The truth is, this was an act of remembrance. This was a symbol of the pain they had come upon after taking the ark of the Lord. We do the same kind of odd things today. Some people take pictures of stillborn babies or relatives in the casket at the funeral. Some stuff dead pets. Why do we do this? Because, deep down, people have a need to commemorate. They have a need to process pain, and some do it in different ways.

Don’t fall into the trap of looking at the ancient people groups of the Bible as some form of ignorant, uneducated cavepeople. We read stories about them burning children alive to appease Molech (Leviticus 18:21), or cutting themselves with knives and wailing to get the attention of Baal (1 Kings 18:28). It’s important to see we are no smarter today. Man’s impulse to seek validation apart from God is as strong as ever. We may not offer children to fire gods, but we swallow pills to kill them in the womb. We may not cut ourselves with knives to get a god’s attention, but people still cut themselves with razors and blades today in attempts to feel and cut through numbness.

It’s also worth mentioning that people are nosy. It’s not our job to know everything, and the men peeking into the ark proved human nature. It may have been well-intentioned, like making sure the Philistines hadn’t stolen anything, but it went against God’s commandment. The same situation happened with Uzzah. He was one of David’s soldiers who was struck dead in 2 Samuel 6 for touching the ark when he thought it was about to fall off the cart that was transporting it. God’s specific command was that it only be carried on foot by Levites (1 Chronicles 15:12-13) It shouldn’t have been on the cart in the first place. Similarly, the ark shouldn’t have been in the Phillistine possession in the first place. Every action has consequences. Good intentions get people nowhere. Following God’s commandments, loving and serving Him, will.


This article originally appeared on Fill in the Gap.

Ready to deepen your Bible study? Try Scriptured - free tools for reading, memorizing, and studying Scripture.

SCRIPTURED is a trademark of Hywel LLC.